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How to Capture Your Parent’s Life Story—Before It’s Too Late

Written by Fayomi Fashanu | Jun 16, 2025 3:00:00 PM

There are stories only our parents can tell.

Not just dates and facts, but the feeling of growing up in a different era. The people who shaped them. The decisions that changed everything. The way things used to be—and what they hoped the future would look like.

Often, these stories surface in fragments:
A detail shared over tea. A memory sparked by a song. A name we’ve never heard before.

And yet, so many of us wait—until we have more time, the right equipment, the perfect questions.
But life doesn’t always give us those moments later on.

Why We Put It Off (And Why We Shouldn’t)

It’s understandable. Sitting down to formally capture a parent’s life story can feel overwhelming—for both sides. Maybe you don’t know how to start. Maybe your parent doesn’t see the value in revisiting the past. Or maybe it just feels too emotional.

But here’s what we hear time and time again:

“I wish I had asked them more.”
“I thought we’d have time.”

The truth is, preserving someone’s story isn’t just about recording information.
It’s about deepening connection. Creating space to listen. Honoring a life while it’s still being lived.

What’s Actually Worth Capturing?

You don’t need to have a Pulitzer-worthy life to have a story worth telling.

The richness is in the everyday:

  • What did home look like when they were ten?

  • Who taught them how to drive?

  • What did love feel like the first time?

  • What do they wish they’d known sooner?

These kinds of questions invite meaning and memory—not performance. And often, they open doors to stories that surprise even them.

A Few Ways to Start (Even If It Feels Awkward)

Capturing a parent’s story doesn’t have to start with a camera. It starts with a question, a quiet moment, and the patience to let it unfold.

Try:

  • “Tell me about your childhood home.”

  • “What’s one moment that changed your life?”

  • “What do you hope your grandchildren will remember about you?”

You can record voice memos on your phone. Write notes. Film short clips. The point isn’t perfection. It’s presence.

Why Film Can Hold What Memory Can’t

There’s something incredibly powerful about seeing a loved one speak on screen. Their voice, their gestures, their laughter—these details don’t live in photographs. And even the most well-written story can’t fully capture what it felt like to be in the room with them.

A filmed story becomes a living memory.
Not just a record of what they did—but who they were.

It can be a deeply moving gift for them, too. To know that someone wants to hear, really hear, what they’ve lived through.

When You Want Help Doing It Well

At Heritage House Studio, we help families gently and professionally capture these stories on film—often for milestone birthdays, anniversaries, or simply because it feels like the right time.

We work with parents and adult children who want to preserve something lasting, but don’t know where to start. From planning to filming to editing, we create a space that’s relaxed, natural, and thoughtful—because that’s where the best stories live.

We’re not here to rush you. But if this post stirred something in you, maybe it’s time for a quiet next step.


No pressure. Just a conversation.

Because the right time to begin preserving a story is often… now.